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Happy Dad, Unhappy Dad: What Happy People Teach To Their Kids is our new free booklet. Our goal is to ignite discussion about subjective well-being measurement, and action about living happily, by comparing two different world-views. Happy Dad, Unhappy Dad: What Happy People Teach To Their Kids discusses keys to lasting happiness, how to be happier, how to measure subjective well-being, how to stay happier.

Happy Dad’s way of living, summarizes as AmAre, which in Italian means “to love”, and in English reminds us about interconnectedness: (I)Am (we) are. AmAre as an acronym stands for being:
* A: Aware and Accepting
* M: Motivated and Meditating
* A: Active and Attentive
* R: Resilient and Respectful
* E: Eating properly and Exercising

Unhappy Dad has quite a confused life, and lives accordingly to AvEre, which in Italian means “to have”, “to own”. This Dad is sad because he is:
* A – Attached
* V– Vindicative
* E– Egocentric
* R – Reluctant
* E – Exhausted and Exhausting

Chapter 2 of this happiness book, starting from the example of Happy Dad, asks some key questions, elaborating in more details a “working approach to living happily”, including:
* Which external factors facilitate happiness?
* Which external factors make happiness more difficult?
* Which external factors are neutral, happiness-wise?
* It is often said that “repetition makes perfect”. In reality, it is more about “repetition makes behavior lasting”. What do people want to make lasting, in order to live in authentic happiness?

One approach to these questions is to think in terms of degree of facilitation. Some events are like a weight, making harder for happiness level to go up; some are like a lift, facilitating increase in happiness. But, at the end of day, considering even the way people discern between weights and lifts (same event can be considered in various ways, and especially with different degrees of effect, by different people), it can be said that happiness is more about attitudes, and not a place to reach through external factors.

The book than continues, offering practical approaches to happy living, some based on scientific research, some on tradition, like the Anishinaabe’s “Teachings of the Seven Grandfathers”. “Happy Dad, Unhappy Dad: What happy people teach, by example, to their kids” follows the format used by Robert Kiyosaki and Sharon Lechter in “Rich dad, poor dad”, but it is not related in any way to such authors. On http://www.amareway.org/ there are several other free books, including a review of Happiness Formulas.

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