Wow! Day 2 and I feel like I’ve been slapped around the head with the emotional issues bat…
We’re taking it in turns in a group of 4 to be in a different role of:
observer of the counsellor;
observer of the client.
The counsellor’s role is to put newly learnt skills into action; the client’s, to share something they feel comfortable with sharing (no actual role playing); the observer of the counsellor, to note and give feedback re the counsellor’s use of the skills; and the client’s observer to draw (or note) impressions and feelings of resonance with what the client is speaking about.
Today, this little bunny found himself in the client seat… It’s amazing where this started and where it ended… fantastic!
Here’s 10 points – observations and quotes – that have resonated with me on Day 2:
“When you’re caught up with the small things or the things that are worrying you, where do you feel it?”
“Take time to establish the relationship with the client…”
“Avoid giving direct advice. Rather, stay close to what the client is saying…”
“Try to find access points for how the counsellor can best engage with the client”
“In engaging with the client the counsellor is able to help facilitate the client’s best solution”
It’s all in the timing
Seek the best points in time during the counselling process when it is safe to approach and unpack issues
If things aren’t working out with a client or you’re unsure of where the counselling process is headed take it as an opportunity to skill youself up rather than referring the client onto someone else too hastily.
of FEELINGS & CONTENT
Joining | Rapport | Building Trust | Companioning | Empathy
Be willing to take risks and make mistakes – the realisation of not being “quite right” or “missing the mark” can oftenbe a catalyst to determining what “the mark” actually is or more clearly defining what is right.
Guest post courtesy of Colin Read, http://theponsinstitute.com