Being happier and flourish is what moves us. Unfortunately, unless we develop awareness about what makes for a happy a meaningful life, we may end up dedicating all our energies and efforts to the “pursuit of happiness”, and still get no happier. Is it time for emptying the cup?
Emptying the cup: the first step in your “How to be happier and flourish” path
Look at a beautiful tea set. Admire the porcellaine, its illustrations. Admire like the light reflects on it, look at the precious golden details etc. Now, unless the use of such beautiful tea set is only decorative, think about what makes it worthwile to have. With all its beautiness, what really allows you to drink tea is the emptines of the cup. And the emptiness of the handle who allow you to hold the cup without burning your fingers.
It is likely you already heard this story over and over again. If you haven’t, be ready to hear it again over and over from other sources. A Japanese zen master was giving audience to a professor of philosophy. Serving tea, the zen master filled his visitor’s cup, and kept pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he could restrain himself no longer: “Stop! The cup is over full, no more will go in.” The zen master said: “Like this cup, you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?”.
To put it in contemporary times, how can you stock new food in the fridge, when you still have old food getting rotten there? First you need to make space, and ensure rotten food doesn’t poison the new food. Going even deeper, do you really need to fill-up the fridge, trying to slow down the rottening process, when you can just eat fresh food and have some stored for a rainy day?
Or, if you like Star Wars, just listen to Yoda: You must unlearn what you have learned.
We give some inspiration about making space, so you can live in the here and now, instead of filling a cup of tea with more than its emptiness can take, instead of stocking the fridge with food you do not need and does not even fit there.
How to start emptying the cup
Is there a right, and a wrong? Or only degrees of appropriateness.
Is there anything sure, and anything impossible? Or only degrees of likelihood.
Nature just is. Math, philosophy, etc. are just ways we describe it. Especially in the case of math, a very versatile and powerful one, still a constructed one.
Is there and ideal and perfect world of ideas reflected, in imperfect ways, on a material world? Or only constructed ideas, abstraction, etc. that we make based on how we perceive the world, and such constructions reflect on how we perceive the world.
Everything is possible, not everything is likely. In some cases, it may make sense to try what is not likely. Do we benefit from assessing probability of events? And should we remember that the assessed probability reflects on the outcome?
The mind is not like a computer. The mind is more like an orchestra.
To the mind, there is more than the brain: our bodies, other beings, the environment, etc. Plus all the interactions we have with them. The whole is way more than the sum of its parts, and for sure much more than just one of its part.
Nature just is. There is no paradox in nature, only sinergies. Something which happens “despite” something else would result in the extinction of the paradox in a very short time.
A paradox cannot be untangled by the mindset who constructed it.
“How to be happier and flourish”: AmAre, cultivating happiness and meaning in life
An affirmation to start cultivating happiness with AmAre:
We can live happy, meaningful and fulfilling lives.
There are skillful ways to start living happy, meaningful and fulfilling lives.
There are skillful ways to keep living happy, meaningful and fulfilling lives.
AmAre is an acronym which summarizes approaches which facilitate living happy, meaningful and fulfilling lives:
* A – Aware and Accepting
* M – Meaningful and Motivated
* A – Active and Attentive
* R – Resilient and Respectful
* E – Eating properly and Exercising