One rule of thumb about respect is: respect other people, and you will substantially increase the likelihood they will respect you back. Based on the article “How to build trust and respect” developed by Vitae, a UK national organization championing the development of doctoral researchers and research staff in higher education institutions and research institutes. Their focus is on co-operation among researchers, however even in this case most of the principles can be leveraged across different context:
– get to know people. Make time to talk about what people do, at work and in their free time. Try to understand what they think and why. Value their viewpoint even if it is different from your own;
– be reliable when you take a commitment. Start with easy tasks first. Always do what you say you are going to do;
– communicate openly and honestly. Leverage opportunities and share with others. Discuss issues as soon as they arise. Don’t blame others. Try and suggest a solution or remedy;
– include people in relevant decision-making. If people participate in decision-making they are more likely to support the decision reached. Once you move into implementation, keep colleagues informed about the related developments;
– ask for assistance. Recognize people’s strengths and get them involved in your action where possible. This demonstrates and builds respect;
– be altruistic. Recognize what is important for other people, and try and help them achieve their aims too;
– meet “face to face”. Email and telephone have limitations as you do not have ‘body language’ to help you contextualize the words, so mixing distance and in person communication is very effective and efficient.

This is an excerpt from our book: A course in happiness and well-being

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